Stupid Phrases for People in Crisis (Part 1)
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BLOG BY JIM KOK
Thoughts from Jim are the musings and teachings of Dr. Jim Kok.
His writings range over a variety of topics,
but all are enlightenments in his mission of motivating people
to be more intentional in their offering kindness
to people around them.
- Mar 3
Theology from an Astronaut
Getting away from it all works wonders, experience teaches us. Quiet-time, being alone, solitude, creates space for reality to regain...
- Feb 17
Life Is God's Gift
Disbelief, shock, then anger are the initial responses to a personal announcement of imminent death. It is rarely an acceptable...
- Feb 3
Things I Forgot
Things I Forgot When My Friend Was Hurting I forgot that when her crisis occurred, she needed someone right away, not hours or days...
- Jan 20
A Most Important Guideline
Not too long ago, I read a letter to Dear Abby that touched directly on some lessons I have repeated frequently from my 13 Secret...
- Jan 6
Be Responsive
Here are the final two suggestions from my 'thirteen secrets', which we began last month. Remember, however, that these ‘Secret...
- Dec 23, 2022
When Are the Twelve Days of Christmas?
We love to sing that joyful and slightly humorous song at Christmas time. But does anyone know what those twelve days are about? Is it...
- Dec 9, 2022
A Kindness Suggestion for Christmas Time
Last night, at about 8:00, I stopped at a home, the residents of which were strangers to me. I rang the door bell and a man came to the...
- Nov 25, 2022
Focus on People
We've been building a list over the the previous two blogs. Here are more to add to the list — you're getting the idea. Acts of kindness...
- Nov 11, 2022
We're On A Roll Here
We started talking in the previous blog about those little things that you can do daily . . . but, more importantly . . . INTENTIONALLY....
- Oct 28, 2022
Don't Be Misled!
Don't People Do These Things Automatically? Well, yes they do. They smile; they pay compliments; they act friendly. But mostly . . . they...
- Oct 14, 2022
Can You Believe It's So Simple?
Yes! It is so simple — so simple that we don't realize the impact of doing these things. People all around us are hungry for a touch of...
- Sep 30, 2022
Act Like You're Glad To See Me
There are at least six major supermarkets to choose from when I contemplate my weekly foray into the grocery world. Sales and specials...
- Sep 16, 2022
How To Deal With Your Aging
At my 80th birthday party, I was honored very pleasantly and humorously. Then I was asked to make my own responsive remarks. Among my...
- Sep 2, 2022
Beware of the Infection of Self-Centeredness
As we grow older, there is a tendency to drift into preoccupation with ourselves — our health, our physical problems, our sleep, money,...
- Aug 19, 2022
More Thoughts on Retirement
Is it a good thing? In my previous comments on this topic, I mostly addressed those who are now of an age to consider themselves...
- Aug 5, 2022
Thoughts on Retirement
Is it a good thing? I remember a conversation with a man who had been nominated to be an Elder of the church. He had served before, but...
- Jul 22, 2022
Kok's Recommended Antidote
The amount of stress that everyone is feeling these days can be overwhelming without having the right attitude when dealing with it, nor...
- Jul 8, 2022
Theology From An Astronaut
Getting away from it all works wonders, and experience teaches us. Quiet-time ... being alone ... solitude ... all create space for...
- Jun 24, 2022
The Price of an Unpaid Traffic Ticket
In 1958, I left Kalamazoo, Michigan, where I was working as a vocational rehabilitation counselor, to go to seminary in...
- Jun 10, 2022
An Angel Experience?
Or a Coincidence? We were sleeping at a cottage at Cobmoosa Shores, near Stony Lake, and facing Lake Michigan. Only Linda and I were...
- May 27, 2022
Noticing the Good in Life!
. I made a quick mental run through my week just ending and made a striking discovery. Although intensely involved in some important...
- May 13, 2022
You Are Far More Than You Think You Are!
The newly installed hospital chaplain, a middle age pastor, exclaimed, "I don't have anything to offer her." He said this as he talked...
- Apr 29, 2022
10 Tips for Helping a Hurting Person
Sadly, well-meaning people often feel awkward when dealing with a friend who is deeply hurting. And in their awkwardness, they grope for...
- Apr 15, 2022
Giving Improves Your Health
Hold on a minute! Hear me out! You are approached with requests that you give or donate to something or other all the time, right? You...
- Apr 1, 2022
How Tall Are You?
Here is an interesting experiment you can try. I have done this before groups of people, and the results are quite interesting. Stand,...
- Mar 18, 2022
Big Smile, Long Life
People who smile a lot are usually happier, have more stable personalities, more stable marriages, better cognitive skills and better...
- Mar 4, 2022
EGO DETACHMENT: A Lesson We All Need
An inability to speak your opinions and ideas in public is often due to a simple problem — ego attachment. What that means is that you...
- Feb 18, 2022
A Major Mistake When Helping the Hurting
When visiting someone who is in grief, or who has recently been hit by a distressing or unsettling event there is a major temptation. It...
- Feb 4, 2022
Finding a Coin - Part 2
Goodness is from God. So when good times pass our way, we are being caressed and nurtured by God, whether we know it or not. Such times...
- Jan 16, 2022
Finding a Coin Can Trigger Love
Positive experiences are spiritual events. That is, something heart-warming or supportive that happens to us is more than just something...
- Dec 27, 2021
The Correct Perception of Humility
Humility is seen in the capacity to do what needs to be done. Humility includes not thinking oneself greater than others, but the...
- Dec 10, 2021
Life Is God's Gift
Disbelief, shock, then anger are the initial responses to a personal announcement of imminent death. It is rarely an acceptable...
- Nov 26, 2021
This is Thanks-giving Month
START A GRATITUDE JOURNAL Much is now known about the benefits of practicing intentional thankfulness. It isn't just a high-level...
- Nov 12, 2021
More Acts of Kindness
#1. I had just led the funeral of a dear woman. We were invited by her husband, Dave Cook, to come to their house after the general...
- Oct 22, 2021
Intentional Acts of Kindness
Our Care and Kindness Campaign is to urge people to make INTENTIONAL acts of kindness part of their life-style. Everyone is familiar with...
- Oct 8, 2021
Understanding Our Influence Through Prayer
I visualize the shape of prayer like an enormous triangle. Looking at the triangle, I imagine the top—the peak—is God. The left bottom...
- Sep 24, 2021
KOK's LAW
‘Kok’s Law’ came into being as a means of survival in intimidating circumstances. No doubt, others have stumbled on its genius, too, but...
- Sep 10, 2021
More on loving my enemies
What makes that commandment so hard for us is that when we think of love, we think of the love we have for our spouse, or our parents,...
- Aug 27, 2021
Love My Enemies ?? Really !!?
Love my enemies? Really !!? That’s a hard one, isn’t it? Luke 6:27 says, “But to you who are listening I say: Love your enemies, do...
- Aug 13, 2021
The Profoundness of Kindness
Proverbs 16:24 I find myself warmed by reading how the different Bible translators have phrased the wisdom in this verse from Proverbs....
- Jul 30, 2021
Are You Contagious?
It could be a good thing if you are! You are a positive person, but when you see the word 'contagious', you think of bad things, don't...
- Jul 16, 2021
The Five Side Effects of Kindness (5)
5) Kindness is Contagious When we’re kind, we inspire others to be kind, and studies show that it actually creates a ripple effect that...
- Jul 2, 2021
The Five Side Effects of Kindness (4)
4) Kindness Improves Relationships This is one of the most obvious points. We all know that we like people who show us kindness. This is...
- Jun 18, 2021
The Five Side Effects of Kindness (3)
3) Kindness Slows Aging Aging on a biochemical level is a combination of many things, but two culprits that speed the process are Free...
- Jun 4, 2021
The Five Side Effects of Kindness (2)
2) Kindness Is Good for the Heart Acts of kindness are often accompanied by emotional warmth. Emotional warmth produces the hormone,...
- May 21, 2021
The Five Side Effects of Kindness (1)
When we think of side effects, the first thing that springs to mind are the side effects of drugs. But who’d have thought that kindness...
- May 8, 2021
People Need People
As we have all struggled for nearly a year and a half with the restrictions of the pandemic, one of the things that I miss most is ...
- Apr 23, 2021
Unlocking a Satisfying Life
Here is the formula for effective, satisfying, and meaningful living. It is to behave in a way that is not naturally comfortable. It is...
- Apr 9, 2021
Small and Simple May Be Plenty
Did you know that a kind word spoken in someone's ear changes their body chemistry in a measurable and positive way? A kind word is a...
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